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Make Your Relationship the Gift for the Holidays

In honor of the holidays, put your relationship first. Make your relationship the gift for the holidays by making your partner a priority. We can’t allow work, friends, or even our kids to keep us from giving our loved one significant time and attention. We must be intentional each day. Sometimes we lose sight of how to do this in the busyness of work, raising kids, paying bills, etc. However, you can do it! Below are some ways you can make your partner feel special and important.   

Greet Them When They/You Come Home

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This is such a simple thing, but it can be a big deal. No one likes to be ignored, especially by the one person that you care about the most. No matter what you’re doing when they come home, try to at least look up and greet them when they arrive. If possible, also give them a hug and kiss! When you come home, try to greet your partner first before you start to do anything, it shows how happy you are to see them.

Have Date Nights

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You already know how important date nights are! We’ve mentioned it almost in every blog post. However, we know this one can be the hardest. It can be difficult to find the time, money and come up with the ideas. But it’s important to spend some adults-only time without the kids. SpicyBox provides everything you need for an intimate and passionate date night. Order your first box today! 

Talk to Your Partner (Really Talk to Them)

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This is another simple but effective way to show your partner you care. Carve out time during the day to talk to them. Discuss your days, your feelings and your hopes and plans for the future. Talking regularly is a key way to maintain and strengthen your connection. Without it, you will quickly begin to drift apart and find yourselves leading separate lives.

Take Interest in Them

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Make sure to ask your loved one about their day, about their friends, or about what’s been on their mind lately. Take an active interest in them by learning about their hobbies and occupation. Try to also spend days with them doing what they like to do. Couples that show interest in each other’s interests tend to have a stronger connection. It also shows that you’re still interested in learning more about them.

Have Kid-Free Conversations

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Make sure that not all your conversations revolve around what the kids did or said that day. And have conversations that aren’t interrupted by, “Finish your dinner!” or “Don’t skate inside the house!” Spend time talking after the kids go to bed or whenever you can give your partner your undivided attention.

Be Physically Affectionate

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A simple touch, hug, or cuddle can mean so much to your partner, and it obviously doesn’t require much of a sacrifice on your part. It’s an easy way for you to show that you love them. Touching is a key factor to a lasting relationship.

Make Sex a Priority

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This one can also be tough. We know that after you’ve fulfilled all your other responsibilities for the day, you probably feel spent and drained. However, a healthy sexual relationship is incredibly vital to a vibrant and committed relationship. So do whatever you have to do to make it a priority. If you are too exhausted at night, try getting up earlier in the morning, or making good use of nap time on the weekends! Or, if it works for you financially, have regular adults-only getaways for a night or two. You could also take advantage of SpicyBox’s passion tip to help spark up the flame!

Continue to Root Them On

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When people have kids, they attend every concert, videotape every recital and cheer at every game. It’s natural to want to encourage your kids in their endeavors. Do you put the same enthusiasm into being your partner’s cheerleader? At the start of our relationship, we all made sure to support our partner’s ideas and pursue their life goals. After some time, are you still their biggest advocate? After the kids arrive, it’s important to make sure that we continue to cheer on and support our significant other.

The holidays are a beautiful time of year and just remember, make sure you let your partner know how much you love them and appreciate the relationship.

8 Secrets of Happy Couples

Relationships can be difficult. Maintaining a healthy, happy relationship requires you to make daily choices that leave your ego behind and to act in the best interest of your relationship. When you see the words, “happy couples” what comes to mind?  You probably think of some friends of yours or a couple you’re acquainted with – and they always seem to be happy. What’s their secret? How do they do it?

According to relationship experts, there are indeed qualities that happy couples tend to share. Let’s look at some of the secrets of happy couples below. Keep in mind that there’s no magic formula and couples must go about it in their own way. However, Consider each as it applies to your relationship and commit to trying to incorporate some of them. 

1. Respect and Kindness – Once the chase is over and we’ve gotten the prize, we often just forget about our partner’s feelings and needs. In lasting relationships, both partners value each other and take care with their words, actions and behaviors. They can both calm themselves effectively during conflict. When there is an issue, respectful communication means you talk about it without bringing up the past and pointing fingers. Happy couples try to learn their partner’s perspective without being so defensive so they can hear the other’s point of view. You can also share your thoughts without dismissing theirs. Ask how you can come to an agreement. You don’t always have to agree, but you should always be respectful and kind.

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2. Thoughtfulness and Consideration- Do all the things for your partner that you would do for your best friend. Try to anticipate their needs and find ways to uplift them. Think about what they need help with and try to be there for them. Thoughtfulness, consideration and kindness is the recipe for lasting relationships. Try to also learn what their love language is. Is it a loving word, a thoughtful gesture, help around the house, or doing something special for them? The better you know what your partner enjoys, the more thoughtful you can be.

3. A sense of humor – couples who laugh together, stay together. Laughter lightens things up when there are hardships in your relationship. Learn to have the capacity to laugh at yourself. Laughing at ourselves instead of judging makes the journey entertaining instead of a constant battle. 

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4. Affection and Intimacy – After some time in relationships, we often forget to show affection toward our partners. We love our significant other but can sometimes get caught up in our everyday lives that we forget to show them we love them. Happy couples tend to make sure to show affection by simple touching, holding each other or kissing for no reason at all. Sexual and emotional intimacy are crucial in a happy relationship. Intimacy creates the feeling of belonging and being loved. Check out SpicyBox’s passion tips!  

5. Trust and Honesty – Honesty and trust become the foundation for everything in a successful relationship. Happy couples take the time to build trust and work at keeping it. It can take a long time to build trust but only a second to break it. Trust is bigger than sexual fidelity, you’re trusting your partner with your fears, vulnerabilities, painful wounds and you’re trusting them to never use them against you. It’s important to be open with your feelings and weaknesses. Learn trust at the emotional, physical and spiritual level. This also means being honest, don’t hide behind lies and deception if you want your relationship to last. Honesty encourages trust and belief in each other. 

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6. Time – Relationships don’t work without time investment. Never have, never will. Any successful relationship requires intentional, quality time together. The relationship with your partner should be the most intimate and deep relationship you have. Therefore, it is going to require more time than any other relationship. SpicyBox can help make sure you make the best out of your time together. Order your first box today!

7. Empathy and Validation – Empathy means trying to understand what your partner is feeling. It isn’t about trying to fix your partner’s concerns and problems, necessarily, but about being able to be there for them. If you can pay more attention to what’s going on with your partner you will find yourself getting closer over time rather than more distant. Validating your loved one shows them that you’re on their side. When you understand and accept what they say, they feel fully seen and heard. When you validate, you accept. And when you accept, you show unconditional love, which is ultimately what keeps people and relationships together in the long run.

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8. Curiosity – Happy couples show interest in each other’s worlds by asking questions. They support each other’s growth and learning of new things. You and your partner will both change over time and being curious together can result in tremendous learning experiences that will strengthen your relationship.

5 Tips Couples Often Forget

One of the keys to a loving and happy relationship is mutual understanding. Below are some tips that may seem like common sense, but you may realize how often you’re forgetting about them. 

1. Admit When You’re Wrong

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During an argument, open your mind and really listen to what your partner has to say, and if you discover that you are wrong, you’ll gain your partner’s appreciation and respect if you admit it. Remember people make mistakes, you don’t have to be perfect. If you make a mistake, it is always better to have the courtesy to apologize and take responsibility for what you did.    

2. Leave the Past in the Past

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If you work through some issues together and come to a positive resolution, don’t look back. This tough time in your relationship should only be used to strengthen your bond. If you refer back to it during arguments or as a means of guilt-tripping your partner, then you’ll sabotage the opportunity for future happiness.  Also, try not to assume that just because something happened once, that it’ll happen again. 

3. Don’t “Let Yourself Go”

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Part of the beauty of true love, is not having to obsess over your looks like you did when you started dating. However, letting yourself go fully can start to undermine your relationship by telling the other person you don’t care as much about what they think anymore. Your partner will appreciate the effort you put into your own appearance.  

4. Don’t Hide Your Emotions

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Just like it is important to be honest, it is important to express your emotions because there’s no such thing as pride in a relationship. Try to let go of your ego and let down your walls. Vulnerability is the key to having a closer, more intimate connection. 

5. Respect Each Other’s Alone Time

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Time alone is necessary for personal reflection, growth or even just quiet contemplation. Support your significant other by respecting their own interests and understanding their need to do what they love. 

SpicyBox is filled with tips and ideas to keep you connected. Order your first box today! 

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