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Holiday Bucket List Ideas For Couples

We mentioned in our last blog post the importance of making time for quality time together during the holidays. Try to push aside, present shopping, Christmas decorating and NYE party planning this season in favor of some much deserved couple time. Below are holiday bucket list ideas for couples! 

It’s the season of giving back. Warm your hearts by volunteering together at either a food bank/shelter or other organization that you both feel strongly about.  

When the nights start getting chilly, there are better ways to heat things up than adjusting your thermostat. Heat things up in the bedroom! SpicyBox’s passion tips are sure to get things hot! 

Cook together! Spend the day with your loved one making mashed potatoes, green bean casserole, pumpkin pie and all the traditional fixin’s. Working as a team on Christmas dinner can be fun, and accomplishing something together will bring you closer together. 

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Dim down the lights, light up some holiday scented handles, put on some Michael Buble, pour some wine and take a bubble bath! This is a sexy way to relax together in the midst of all the holiday planning. 

If you have time, take a small road trip together. You can make it a mini vacation and stay in a cute bed and breakfast, go skiing at one of the snowier states or airbnb a cabin. Sometimes it’s nice to get away and get some alone time in nature. 

Embrace your inner child; build a pillow fort, have a snowball fight or make a snowman! 

You don’t need to wait for everyone else to show up to have a game night. If you want to make it even more fun, try a two person drinking game. Clothing optional, obviously.

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Put a mistletoe in your home and make out every time you catch yourselves underneath it. Mistletoe isn’t just for G-rated smooches!

Go ice skating! Ice skating is arguably the most romantic winter activity, hold hands and laugh together as you try to some new tricks! 

Cuddle up by the fireplace and have a holiday movie marathon. Afterwards, reenact your favorite romantic holiday movie scenes. Bring role play to a whole new level. 

Make a joint New Year’s Eve resolution to make your relationship even stronger. We suggest reigniting the passion with SpicyBox‘s monthly subscription!  

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Say farewell to 2019 with a kiss – or maybe with something more. 😉

A rewarding relationship should be filled with experiences that create wonderful memories, bring you two closer together, make you laugh and nonverbally say “I love you.” Happy Holidays!   

Get Closer with Your Partner in 45 Minutes

Do you know your significant other? I mean, do you really, truly, deeply know who they are as a person? You may see your significant other at the end of the day and ask “How was your day?” and you go through what you did and what happened. You talk about plans for the weekend and updates from friends, family and coworkers. Couples with kids or full-time jobs have a lot going on, and they get so wrapped up in the day-to-day that they forget to ask each other how they are doing and what they are feeling. Especially if you have known your loved one for a long time, you assume that you know them already and forget that people change and grow with time.

Don’t let the deeper questions fade away, when you feel loved, it makes you feel accepted and valued by your partner, like someone truly gets you. SpicyBox’s tips make sure you don’t get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but that you are truly relating to each other emotionally. While you wait for your first or next SpicyBox, check out this quiz from psychologist, Arthur Aron via Greater Good in Action. These 36 questions were designed to boost intimacy and bring partners closer together. 

  • For 15 minutes, take turns asking one another the questions in Level 1 below. Each person should answer each question, but in an alternating order, so that a different person goes first each time.
  • After 15 minutes, move on to Level 2, even if you haven’t yet finished the Level 1 questions. Then spend 15 minutes on Level 2, following the same system.
  • After 15 minutes on Level 2, spend 15 minutes on Level 3. (Note: Each set of questions is designed to be more probing than the previous one. The 15-minute periods ensure that you spend an equivalent amount of time at each level of self-disclosure). 

Level 1: General Traits 

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1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Level 2: Personal Concerns

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13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Level 3: Self-Narrative

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25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

The most important first step in increasing the closeness and connection in your relationship is to prioritize it. That means setting aside time for it. SpicyBox’s unique date ideas encourage a deeper understanding of the person you love.  

How to Deepen Your Sexual Connection With Your Partner

If the sex feels boring, it may be because you’re focusing on pleasure first and connection second. You may be doing a lot of things and movements, but not really being with each other. When you express your emotions, risk being vulnerable and are open, you can connect on a deeper, more intimate level. Sometimes being emotionally naked is the sexiest, most thrilling way to satisfy your desires. Let’s look at how you can deepen your sexual connection with your partner.

Set the Stage

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One way you can connect more during sex is by setting the stage for intimacy. Some great ideas for setting the mood include giving one another massages, putting on some sensual music, lighting candles and making sure to clear your schedules for sex and intimacy. You can also set the mood by kissing often before sex. Sexual intimacy happens when you feel safe, loved and aroused by your partner. SpicyBox sends you intimate items every month. Order your first box today!  

Be Present

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Many people feel emotionally disconnected during sex because their minds are somewhere else. You need to be fully present in order to be fully open. Avoid thinking about your to-do list, house chores, work or your kids’ schedule. Get out of your head and back into your body. Bring all your attention to your body and breath and then bring all of your attention to your loved one. Letting go during sex and meditating is the exact same thing.

Prioritize Building a Friendship

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Many people make the mistake of focusing too much on technique — the details of sex itself. However, one of the most underrated ways to increase trust and openess during sex is to really work on developing a solid, always-evolving friendship with your partner. When your relationship is a safe space to share, be and express without being judged, your ability to offer more and surrender without reservations in the bedroom greatly increases.

Let go and Surrender 

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Let go of your expectations of how things should go and look and just enjoy the moment with your partner. Many couples try to plan how their lovemaking should go before it’s even happened. This is partly because you can easily get stuck in a sex routine. Doing this will prevent you from experiencing fully surrendered sex — the sex where you both fully surrender into trust and love and let all of your walls down. Switch up your predictable sex routine with SpicyBox’s Passion Tips!

Take Turns Giving And Receiving

How to Deepen Your Sexual Connection With Your Partner
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Sometimes people get into a habit of primarily giving or receiving. When you set up a time where you can be alone with your partner without interruption, try to maintain focus on one another during your sexually intimate moments. Taking turns is not about “you do me and then I’ll do you,” it is about dropping into a shared erotic experience with focused attention.

There are many ways to intensify your intimate connection with your significant other during sex. You can also communicate openly about your physical and emotional needs. Practice being more verbal about how you feel toward your partner, or express your feelings in outward non-verbal ways. You can try maintaining eye-contact during sex, doing small touches like stroking their face and kissing their neck. You can even say their name during sex or tell them you love them. Working on deepening your bond with your partner through intimacy will lead to a more satisfying sex life in your relationship. If you want to receive monthly ideas and tips to further strengthen your connection, make sure to order your SpicyBox

3 Ways To Celebrate Sweetest Day 

What is Sweetest Day? To put it simply, Sweetest Day is always celebrated on the third Saturday of October. This year, that happens to be Oct. 19. It’s a day to be sweet by sharing a kind thought, a small gift or a gesture of kindness. It’s a day to give a card with a sweet message to someone you love. You can also give gifts of candy and other sweets. Even if you’ve never heard of it, that doesn’t mean it’s not worth a date! This is a perfect opportunity to try something new with your partner. Below are three ways to celebrate that beat giving a box of chocolates!

1. Make Sweet Treats Together

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Making sweets sure beats buying them in a box. It will also give you a fun Sweetest Day activity to enjoy together. You can either take a class together or do something fun and easy at home, like dipping and decorating candied apples or making chocolate covered strawberries. We all know chocolate is sexy!  

2. Write a Sweet Handwritten Note

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This is one of the easiest yet gesture-packed things to do on Sweetest Day. A couple meaningful words can make for one happy heart. So jot down how you feel about your special someone, then cleverly stash them around to be found. Your love letter may not be the most perfect one ever written. But as long as it comes from you, and is sincere, it will be perfect in the eyes of the person who receives it. 

3. Relax with Your Sweetie 

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Escape the pace of ‘normal life.’ Enjoy quality time with your partner with fewer distractions. Go to the beach and watch the sunset together, take a walk in the park while you whisper sweet nothings to each other, hang out under the stars and make s’mores or even just take a romantic bubble bath together! Whatever you decide to do to relax with your partner, make sure it’s different from what you always do.

Overall, use this day as a reminder to spend time with your loved one. For those that ordered their SpicyBox, using one of your unique dates is the perfect way to celebrate this year’s Sweetest Day! 

5 Tips Couples Often Forget

One of the keys to a loving and happy relationship is mutual understanding. Below are some tips that may seem like common sense, but you may realize how often you’re forgetting about them. 

1. Admit When You’re Wrong

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During an argument, open your mind and really listen to what your partner has to say, and if you discover that you are wrong, you’ll gain your partner’s appreciation and respect if you admit it. Remember people make mistakes, you don’t have to be perfect. If you make a mistake, it is always better to have the courtesy to apologize and take responsibility for what you did.    

2. Leave the Past in the Past

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If you work through some issues together and come to a positive resolution, don’t look back. This tough time in your relationship should only be used to strengthen your bond. If you refer back to it during arguments or as a means of guilt-tripping your partner, then you’ll sabotage the opportunity for future happiness.  Also, try not to assume that just because something happened once, that it’ll happen again. 

3. Don’t “Let Yourself Go”

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Part of the beauty of true love, is not having to obsess over your looks like you did when you started dating. However, letting yourself go fully can start to undermine your relationship by telling the other person you don’t care as much about what they think anymore. Your partner will appreciate the effort you put into your own appearance.  

4. Don’t Hide Your Emotions

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Just like it is important to be honest, it is important to express your emotions because there’s no such thing as pride in a relationship. Try to let go of your ego and let down your walls. Vulnerability is the key to having a closer, more intimate connection. 

5. Respect Each Other’s Alone Time

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Time alone is necessary for personal reflection, growth or even just quiet contemplation. Support your significant other by respecting their own interests and understanding their need to do what they love. 

SpicyBox is filled with tips and ideas to keep you connected. Order your first box today! 

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