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Holiday Bucket List Ideas For Couples

We mentioned in our last blog post the importance of making time for quality time together during the holidays. Try to push aside, present shopping, Christmas decorating and NYE party planning this season in favor of some much deserved couple time. Below are holiday bucket list ideas for couples! 

It’s the season of giving back. Warm your hearts by volunteering together at either a food bank/shelter or other organization that you both feel strongly about.  

When the nights start getting chilly, there are better ways to heat things up than adjusting your thermostat. Heat things up in the bedroom! SpicyBox’s passion tips are sure to get things hot! 

Cook together! Spend the day with your loved one making mashed potatoes, green bean casserole, pumpkin pie and all the traditional fixin’s. Working as a team on Christmas dinner can be fun, and accomplishing something together will bring you closer together. 

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Dim down the lights, light up some holiday scented handles, put on some Michael Buble, pour some wine and take a bubble bath! This is a sexy way to relax together in the midst of all the holiday planning. 

If you have time, take a small road trip together. You can make it a mini vacation and stay in a cute bed and breakfast, go skiing at one of the snowier states or airbnb a cabin. Sometimes it’s nice to get away and get some alone time in nature. 

Embrace your inner child; build a pillow fort, have a snowball fight or make a snowman! 

You don’t need to wait for everyone else to show up to have a game night. If you want to make it even more fun, try a two person drinking game. Clothing optional, obviously.

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Put a mistletoe in your home and make out every time you catch yourselves underneath it. Mistletoe isn’t just for G-rated smooches!

Go ice skating! Ice skating is arguably the most romantic winter activity, hold hands and laugh together as you try to some new tricks! 

Cuddle up by the fireplace and have a holiday movie marathon. Afterwards, reenact your favorite romantic holiday movie scenes. Bring role play to a whole new level. 

Make a joint New Year’s Eve resolution to make your relationship even stronger. We suggest reigniting the passion with SpicyBox‘s monthly subscription!  

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Say farewell to 2019 with a kiss – or maybe with something more. 😉

A rewarding relationship should be filled with experiences that create wonderful memories, bring you two closer together, make you laugh and nonverbally say “I love you.” Happy Holidays!   

Keeping Your Relationship Stress-Free During The Holidays

Whether you’ve been together for months or years, the holiday season can bring a lot of stress to a relationship. But if you do any of these small things to keep your relationship stress-free during the holidays, then your relationship can come out of the season a lot stronger.

Make Time For Quality Time Together

While you’re out gift and food shopping and trying to make sure you have everyone and everything on your list, don’t neglect your relationship. We understand it’s a busy time of the year and it can be difficult connecting with your partner in the midst of it all. However, try to plan at least one just-the-two-of-you date. SpicyBox’s unique date ideas are perfect for the couple that wants to spend quality time together but doesn’t have the time to plan something special. Order your first box today and receive everything you need for an intimate night. Couples who devote time to one another at least once a week on dates are more likely to have high-quality relationships with higher levels of communication, sexual satisfaction and commitment. 

Lean on Each Other For Help

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As couples are affected by external relationships including friends and family, it’s important to tackle the holiday season as a team. This means communicating when it comes to holiday spending, decorations and Christmas parties. It also means being supportive, kind, and respectful to each other even when you’re both stressed out and overwhelmed. You might be surprised at how much you can get done together. You can reduce stress, knock out your list and maybe even steal a few kisses in between.

Give Thoughtful Gestures

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The holidays are a time for giving. No need to wait until Christmas morning to show your partner you care. You can spread out thoughtful gestures the entire holiday season. Thoughtful gestures can be bringing them a cup of tea in bed, cooking a meal for them, getting their car washed or putting a sweet note in their wallet. If you want to surprise your partner with a gift, don’t just buy a requested gift, give an unexpected gift—one that took a bit of thoughtfulness and creativity. Most people prefer gifts that are very thoughtful and unexpected. Hint! Hint! Surprising your partner with a SpicyBox date will be the perfect gesture!   

Create Small Rituals Of Connection

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The holidays are all about traditions. What better way to be closer with your partner than starting your own traditions. Think about one ritual you could repeat year after year that would add more joy to your relationship. It might be having hot chocolate together on a holiday after the kids go to bed, watching a favorite movie together every holiday or running a 5K together on New Year’s Day.  Try even creating small rituals of connection, such as checking in with each other every evening after work or kissing hello and goodbye. Trying to maintain some level of connection in your daily routine is important in general. But these small rituals can help to keep your relationship intact during the stressful holiday time. 

Make Time For Sex

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When you have a lot going on, it’s easy to let sex life get pushed to the side. However, it’s important to keep prioritizing intimacy if you want to make your relationship more resilient during the holiday season. Just like getting enough sleep, exercising, laughing together and making time for yourself can all be really helpful in reducing the overall stress in your relationship, making time for sex is just as important. SpicyBox’s Passion Tips will help reignite the passion during stressful times. Get your first box today! 

Get Closer with Your Partner in 45 Minutes

Do you know your significant other? I mean, do you really, truly, deeply know who they are as a person? You may see your significant other at the end of the day and ask “How was your day?” and you go through what you did and what happened. You talk about plans for the weekend and updates from friends, family and coworkers. Couples with kids or full-time jobs have a lot going on, and they get so wrapped up in the day-to-day that they forget to ask each other how they are doing and what they are feeling. Especially if you have known your loved one for a long time, you assume that you know them already and forget that people change and grow with time.

Don’t let the deeper questions fade away, when you feel loved, it makes you feel accepted and valued by your partner, like someone truly gets you. SpicyBox’s tips make sure you don’t get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but that you are truly relating to each other emotionally. While you wait for your first or next SpicyBox, check out this quiz from psychologist, Arthur Aron via Greater Good in Action. These 36 questions were designed to boost intimacy and bring partners closer together. 

  • For 15 minutes, take turns asking one another the questions in Level 1 below. Each person should answer each question, but in an alternating order, so that a different person goes first each time.
  • After 15 minutes, move on to Level 2, even if you haven’t yet finished the Level 1 questions. Then spend 15 minutes on Level 2, following the same system.
  • After 15 minutes on Level 2, spend 15 minutes on Level 3. (Note: Each set of questions is designed to be more probing than the previous one. The 15-minute periods ensure that you spend an equivalent amount of time at each level of self-disclosure). 

Level 1: General Traits 

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1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Level 2: Personal Concerns

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13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Level 3: Self-Narrative

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25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

The most important first step in increasing the closeness and connection in your relationship is to prioritize it. That means setting aside time for it. SpicyBox’s unique date ideas encourage a deeper understanding of the person you love.  

Practice Gratitude With Your Partner On Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is in a week and everyone knows that this day is about giving thanks. If you’re in a relationship, you might be really thankful for your partner, so this year, why don’t you practice gratitude with your partner on Thanksgiving? While it’s important to appreciate your partner every day, taking that time around the holidays to do something extra special can strengthen a marriage and boost your relationship. Check out the following suggestions for showing your partner just how thankful you are to have them in your life. 

Start The Day With Love and Gratitude 

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Begin the day by telling your partner why you are grateful for them. It could be in words, a card or by giving a gift. By demonstrating your gratitude to your partner in a thoughtful way, you’ll be starting Thanksgiving Day off on the right foot. It may sound simple, but people like to be thanked and feel appreciated.  

Turn Your Words Into Actions

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A great way to show your partner you’re grateful for them is to not only express your gratitude through words but to also show them through actions. This is a powerful way to show your partner that you mean what you say. For example, If your partner is cooking for Thanksgiving, ask them if they need your help, and even if they say they don’t, figure out a way you know you can help take the load off of them. You can do things like setting the table, putting some music on to make it fun or cleaning after dinner. Cooking together can also be a fun activity for the both of you since the prep time will give you a chance to talk and be a team. Make sure to reward each other with a SpicyBox date!  

Enjoy the Holiday Together

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Among the chaos of a house full of guests, don’t be afraid to steal away for a few minutes. You can head to your room and cuddle on the bed, give each other some private affection. Use some of SpicyBox‘s passion tips if you get a chance! When family members come over, it doesn’t mean you should quit acting like a couple either. Sit by each other as often as possible, even secretly holding hands to make it more fun. Being near each other will make you feel more connected as a couple. Don’t go through the Thanksgiving meal separately. 

Be Creative 

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Of course you appreciate and love your partner, and they probably know that, but consider taking a more intentional and thoughtful approach to communicating your feelings to them. Chances are you know what makes your partner tick, so you know exactly what makes them feel loved and appreciated. They’ll appreciate all of your effort and practicing gratitude is helpful in a relationship because it keeps you in appreciation of one another, and not likely to fall into the common trap of taking each other for granted. It also helps maintain mutual respect and admiration. So consider taking some of  these steps with your significant other this Thanksgiving. They just might help keep your relationship as fresh as your delicious Thanksgiving dinner leftovers. 

Just because the holidays are approaching us, that doesn’t mean you should stop prioritizing quality time with your partner. Order your first Spicybox today!

How to Deepen Your Sexual Connection With Your Partner

If the sex feels boring, it may be because you’re focusing on pleasure first and connection second. You may be doing a lot of things and movements, but not really being with each other. When you express your emotions, risk being vulnerable and are open, you can connect on a deeper, more intimate level. Sometimes being emotionally naked is the sexiest, most thrilling way to satisfy your desires. Let’s look at how you can deepen your sexual connection with your partner.

Set the Stage

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One way you can connect more during sex is by setting the stage for intimacy. Some great ideas for setting the mood include giving one another massages, putting on some sensual music, lighting candles and making sure to clear your schedules for sex and intimacy. You can also set the mood by kissing often before sex. Sexual intimacy happens when you feel safe, loved and aroused by your partner. SpicyBox sends you intimate items every month. Order your first box today!  

Be Present

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Many people feel emotionally disconnected during sex because their minds are somewhere else. You need to be fully present in order to be fully open. Avoid thinking about your to-do list, house chores, work or your kids’ schedule. Get out of your head and back into your body. Bring all your attention to your body and breath and then bring all of your attention to your loved one. Letting go during sex and meditating is the exact same thing.

Prioritize Building a Friendship

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Many people make the mistake of focusing too much on technique — the details of sex itself. However, one of the most underrated ways to increase trust and openess during sex is to really work on developing a solid, always-evolving friendship with your partner. When your relationship is a safe space to share, be and express without being judged, your ability to offer more and surrender without reservations in the bedroom greatly increases.

Let go and Surrender 

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Let go of your expectations of how things should go and look and just enjoy the moment with your partner. Many couples try to plan how their lovemaking should go before it’s even happened. This is partly because you can easily get stuck in a sex routine. Doing this will prevent you from experiencing fully surrendered sex — the sex where you both fully surrender into trust and love and let all of your walls down. Switch up your predictable sex routine with SpicyBox’s Passion Tips!

Take Turns Giving And Receiving

How to Deepen Your Sexual Connection With Your Partner
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Sometimes people get into a habit of primarily giving or receiving. When you set up a time where you can be alone with your partner without interruption, try to maintain focus on one another during your sexually intimate moments. Taking turns is not about “you do me and then I’ll do you,” it is about dropping into a shared erotic experience with focused attention.

There are many ways to intensify your intimate connection with your significant other during sex. You can also communicate openly about your physical and emotional needs. Practice being more verbal about how you feel toward your partner, or express your feelings in outward non-verbal ways. You can try maintaining eye-contact during sex, doing small touches like stroking their face and kissing their neck. You can even say their name during sex or tell them you love them. Working on deepening your bond with your partner through intimacy will lead to a more satisfying sex life in your relationship. If you want to receive monthly ideas and tips to further strengthen your connection, make sure to order your SpicyBox

Why Scary Movie Date Nights Bring Couples Closer Together

Halloween is tomorrow, and while the frightful night is fun for families and friends, it can also make a hauntingly romantic holiday for couples. In honor of spooky season, rekindle the fun and romance of scary movie date night.

It’s the Perfect Opportunity to Cuddle

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Scary movie night creates the perfect opportunity to snuggle up close to your partner for those terrifying moments. Keep the room completely dark or dimly lit with just one candle. If you have extra time, make it a romantic horror movie marathon. Plan ahead to make it special by preparing a candlelight dinner, making your significant other’s favorite dessert or come up with some fun drinking game for the scary movies you choose. 

Being Scared Releases a Chemical of Attraction

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Usually, couples choose sentimental dramas or romantic comedies because they seem like the obvious and safe choice. However, watching a horror flick is a proven way to get closer. Scary movies are perfect for any time of year, so there’s no need to wait for Halloween to test out this date night idea. When you and your partner cuddle up to watch the movie, the feeling of being scared releases a chemical called dopamine. Dopamine is responsible for the “feel good” reaction that makes us feel love and attraction. To put it simply, it tells our brain that we like something and want more of it. 

It Makes You Vulnerable

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Real intimacy can also be achieved when couples are vulnerable. Vulnerability gives us the opportunity to offer support, and therefore strengthens trust. When you watch horror movies as a couple, it opens up a conversation about your fears. Maybe you don’t believe in demonic possession, or you’re incredibly afraid of psychopaths and serial killers, or maybe spooky movies don’t scare you at all. Regardless, by watching a terrifying film with your significant other, you’re opening up to a potential conversation where you can learn new things about each other. Communication is a crucial element of success in any romantic relationship. If you need more ideas for intimate date ideas, make sure to subscribe to SpicyBox!

3 Ways to Make Date Night Happen

We’ve talked about the importance of date night to maintaining a happy relationship. However, getting the most out of date night takes more than Netflix and a pizza every Friday night. It’s not enough to simply make date night a part of your weekly routine. In order to receive the full benefits for your relationship, you need to give date night a little effort. Our lives are so busy and full, if we don’t make this time, feelings of being taken for granted can easily come up. Below are three ways to make date night happen so you can take your relationship to the next level!   

Commit to it

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The key component of starting your habit of time together is scheduling it. Everything important that needs to happen eventually happens because it lands on your calendar and you commit your time to it exclusively. We do this for work meetings, doctor appointments, parent-teacher conferences, hair appointments, our annual physical and oil changes. So why wouldn’t it be the same for quality time with your partner? Put it in the calendar, even when things get rocky.  We understand it may feel forced to go out and have fun with your loved one after arguing, but this is when it’s even more important to remind each other of the good stuff in your relationship. There are many things you love about each other, but some days you just don’t allow yourself to see it.                 

Be Creative

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Your date night doesn’t have to be something out of a romance movie. However, freshness and originality are necessary once in a while. Remember that feeling you had on your first date? The excitement of learning something new about each other is part of the magic of romance. But so often, couples will settle into a comfortable routine of dinner and a movie or the same weekend nature walk and then wonder why the spark went away. Our human nature is to be attracted to new things and date night is an opportunity to keep the long-term love feeling new. If you’ve been feeling as though the spark is missing from your relationship, try doing something you haven’t done before on your next date night. Order your first SpicyBox! When you join, you’ll receive TWO unique date ideas every month! Plus, we’ll provide the items needed as well! You’ll be surprised how one monthly box can spark a whole lot of passion.   

Be Consistent

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One of the most important things in a relationship is showing up emotionally for the other person. This includes being available for date night on a regular basis. Emotional inconsistency can really harm your connection and getting sucked into our busy lifestyle can prevent you from missing out on the small moments that feed your bond.  

SpicyBox is filled with tips and ideas to keep you connected. Order your first box today!       

3 Ways To Celebrate Sweetest Day 

What is Sweetest Day? To put it simply, Sweetest Day is always celebrated on the third Saturday of October. This year, that happens to be Oct. 19. It’s a day to be sweet by sharing a kind thought, a small gift or a gesture of kindness. It’s a day to give a card with a sweet message to someone you love. You can also give gifts of candy and other sweets. Even if you’ve never heard of it, that doesn’t mean it’s not worth a date! This is a perfect opportunity to try something new with your partner. Below are three ways to celebrate that beat giving a box of chocolates!

1. Make Sweet Treats Together

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Making sweets sure beats buying them in a box. It will also give you a fun Sweetest Day activity to enjoy together. You can either take a class together or do something fun and easy at home, like dipping and decorating candied apples or making chocolate covered strawberries. We all know chocolate is sexy!  

2. Write a Sweet Handwritten Note

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This is one of the easiest yet gesture-packed things to do on Sweetest Day. A couple meaningful words can make for one happy heart. So jot down how you feel about your special someone, then cleverly stash them around to be found. Your love letter may not be the most perfect one ever written. But as long as it comes from you, and is sincere, it will be perfect in the eyes of the person who receives it. 

3. Relax with Your Sweetie 

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Escape the pace of ‘normal life.’ Enjoy quality time with your partner with fewer distractions. Go to the beach and watch the sunset together, take a walk in the park while you whisper sweet nothings to each other, hang out under the stars and make s’mores or even just take a romantic bubble bath together! Whatever you decide to do to relax with your partner, make sure it’s different from what you always do.

Overall, use this day as a reminder to spend time with your loved one. For those that ordered their SpicyBox, using one of your unique dates is the perfect way to celebrate this year’s Sweetest Day! 

Why Sex Is Important in a Relationship

Sure, there’s much more to a relationship than sex, but getting busy is a major factor in maintaining a healthy, long-term partnership.

After dating for a period of time, many couples stop prioritizing sex. Many believe this is a normal evolution as time goes on. However, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to bring the passion back. Getting too comfortable with the “norms” of a long-term relationship can be the end of your relationship. Let’s go over the importance of sex in your relationship, whether that has been going on for three months or three years.

Sex is Important for Your Overall Health 

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Studies show being intimate a few times per week is just what the doctor ordered. There are numerous health benefits for folks of all ages and both genders. During each orgasm, your body releases DHEA, a hormone known to boost your immune system, improve cognition, keep skin healthy and help you look younger. It can also lower your blood pressure! For women specifically it improves memory, regulates periods and lowers the risk of preeclampsia. For men it decreases the risk of cardiovascular disease and prostate cancer! It’s also good for your mental health since it can lead to decreased pain and anxiety and increased relaxation and well-being due to the endorphins being released. 

It’s Important for You to Both Feel Desirable

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Feeling secure and confident in your relationship is very important. One semi-obvious reason sex matters in a relationship is desirability. Feeling wanted and desirable comes from more than physical elements of a relationship. Still, it’s undeniable that sex is key to making each other know that no matter how long it’s been, you are still hot as ever! For both men and women, being desired is essential to happiness and confidence in a relationship. Sex can make many feel desired, but when sex is part of love, that’s the highest form of desirability. There’s physical, mental and emotional stimulation involved when making love with your partner. You’ll love the His and Hers Passion Tips in your SpicyBox, they will surely help reignite this type of passion. 

Intimacy Increases Connection

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Touch will bring you closer to your partner in a very physical and hormonal way. Since sex releases oxytocin, the “bonding” and “love” hormone, being intimate will make you feel connected with your partner. Having regular sex in a monogamous relationship can increase your level of commitment and help you connect emotionally. Couples are more likely to stay together when they can express their love in this way. The relational benefits of sex are also assisted by the chemicals our bodies make which are calming and can contribute to bonding and greater emotional intimacy.

So, think of sex as a prescription for good health — your mind, body and relationship will thank you for it. Also, don’t forget to wear your sexy lingerie from SpicyBox’s exclusive collection!   

5 Tips Couples Often Forget

One of the keys to a loving and happy relationship is mutual understanding. Below are some tips that may seem like common sense, but you may realize how often you’re forgetting about them. 

1. Admit When You’re Wrong

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During an argument, open your mind and really listen to what your partner has to say, and if you discover that you are wrong, you’ll gain your partner’s appreciation and respect if you admit it. Remember people make mistakes, you don’t have to be perfect. If you make a mistake, it is always better to have the courtesy to apologize and take responsibility for what you did.    

2. Leave the Past in the Past

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If you work through some issues together and come to a positive resolution, don’t look back. This tough time in your relationship should only be used to strengthen your bond. If you refer back to it during arguments or as a means of guilt-tripping your partner, then you’ll sabotage the opportunity for future happiness.  Also, try not to assume that just because something happened once, that it’ll happen again. 

3. Don’t “Let Yourself Go”

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Part of the beauty of true love, is not having to obsess over your looks like you did when you started dating. However, letting yourself go fully can start to undermine your relationship by telling the other person you don’t care as much about what they think anymore. Your partner will appreciate the effort you put into your own appearance.  

4. Don’t Hide Your Emotions

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Just like it is important to be honest, it is important to express your emotions because there’s no such thing as pride in a relationship. Try to let go of your ego and let down your walls. Vulnerability is the key to having a closer, more intimate connection. 

5. Respect Each Other’s Alone Time

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Time alone is necessary for personal reflection, growth or even just quiet contemplation. Support your significant other by respecting their own interests and understanding their need to do what they love. 

SpicyBox is filled with tips and ideas to keep you connected. Order your first box today! 

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