If the sex feels boring, it may be because you’re focusing on pleasure first and connection second. You may be doing a lot of things and movements, but not really being with each other. When you express your emotions, risk being vulnerable and are open, you can connect on a deeper, more intimate level. Sometimes being emotionally naked is the sexiest, most thrilling way to satisfy your desires. Let’s look at how you can deepen your sexual connection with your partner.
Set the Stage
One way you can connect more during sex is by setting the stage for intimacy. Some great ideas for setting the mood include giving one another massages, putting on some sensual music, lighting candles and making sure to clear your schedules for sex and intimacy. You can also set the mood by kissing often before sex. Sexual intimacy happens when you feel safe, loved and aroused by your partner. SpicyBox sends you intimate items every month. Order your first box today!
Many people feel emotionally disconnected during sex because their minds are somewhere else. You need to be fully present in order to be fully open. Avoid thinking about your to-do list, house chores, work or your kids’ schedule. Get out of your head and back into your body. Bring all your attention to your body and breath and then bring all of your attention to your loved one. Letting go during sex and meditating is the exact same thing.
Prioritize Building a Friendship
Many people make the mistake of focusing too much on technique — the details of sex itself. However, one of the most underrated ways to increase trust and openess during sex is to really work on developing a solid, always-evolving friendship with your partner. When your relationship is a safe space to share, be and express without being judged, your ability to offer more and surrender without reservations in the bedroom greatly increases.
Let go and Surrender
Let go of your expectations of how things should go and look and just enjoy the moment with your partner. Many couples try to plan how their lovemaking should go before it’s even happened. This is partly because you can easily get stuck in a sex routine. Doing this will prevent you from experiencing fully surrendered sex — the sex where you both fully surrender into trust and love and let all of your walls down. Switch up your predictable sex routine with SpicyBox’s Passion Tips!
Take Turns Giving And Receiving
Sometimes people get into a habit of primarily giving or receiving. When you set up a time where you can be alone with your partner without interruption, try to maintain focus on one another during your sexually intimate moments. Taking turns is not about “you do me and then I’ll do you,” it is about dropping into a shared erotic experience with focused attention.
There are many ways to intensify your intimate connection with your significant other during sex. You can also communicate openly about your physical and emotional needs. Practice being more verbal about how you feel toward your partner, or express your feelings in outward non-verbal ways. You can try maintaining eye-contact during sex, doing small touches like stroking their face and kissing their neck. You can even say their name during sex or tell them you love them. Working on deepening your bond with your partner through intimacy will lead to a more satisfying sex life in your relationship. If you want to receive monthly ideas and tips to further strengthen your connection, make sure to order your SpicyBox!