This time of year, it’s natural to focus inward, thinking about healthy new habits, self-improvement and professional advancement. Consider channeling part of that fired-up New Year’s spirit into your bond with your partner too. Below are seven New Year’s resolution ideas for couples!
Make Sex a Priority
When we’re busy, sex can get lost in the shuffle, but it’s too good for your relationship, your health and your mood to skip. Try to make time to reconnect with your partner in bed by scheduling a weekend “staycation,” or by sending the kids off to a playdate. If the sex has become dull, put some effort into figuring out how to make it exciting again. SpicyBox’s passion tips will surely spice things up!
Stop Fighting Over Little Things
If you have a serious issue or concern with your partner, it’s important to bring it up. However, try to avoid petty arguments and insults. One nitpicky fight isn’t a big deal, but over time, small critical comments can weaken the foundation of your relationship. Pick your battles. When you sense a fight on the horizon, try to calm yourself momentarily and ask “Is this worth disturbing the peace for?”
Be Emotionally Honest
Even the bluntest among us has avoided explaining feelings to a partner at one time or another. It’s hard to share with your loved one (especially if you’re experiencing an irrational emotion like jealousy), but it’s important that you keep your partner in the loop so that they can act appropriately or try to do better. Saying “I feel” instead of “you made me feel” will help you and your partner stay focused on resolving the negative emotions without it turning into a blame fest.
Stop Multitasking With Technology
When you’re spending time with your sweetie, turn off buzzes, rings and chirps from your computer and phone. Don’t scroll through your texts while your partner is talking to you or message a friend while you’re supposed to be planning dinner. You may think you can do two things at once, but when you do, you’re sending your partner the message that they’re not worth your full attention. If you both have things you must do on your phone or computer, set a block of time aside to accomplish the tasks, and then move on with your evening. When you go on one of your SpicyBox dates, it is highly important to put your phones away!
We know there are times you have to multitask to get through the day. However, when having conversations with your partner, try not to just nod automatically as they talk or do the dishes while they tell you about their day. Sit down, look at them in the eye, pay attention to what they say and ask questions. This is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. Active listening is a skill that you have to work on with time and effort, but it’s incredibly important.
Praise More Than You Criticize
When you spend a lot of time with someone, it becomes easy to overlook the things that are great about them. Instead of dwelling on their bad habits, remind yourself of the reasons you fell for them in the first place. Then tell your loved one! Couples who have been together for a long time tend to forget to compliment one another. Try to dish out three compliments for every criticism, and don’t be shocked if they mirror your actions. Shared appreciation breeds kindness and consideration, and what couple couldn’t use more of that?
As an adult, we forget to play. However, the way you act during work doesn’t have to extend to your personal life. Infuse your relationship with playfulness. Talk in funny voices, do something creative together or just be fully in the moment like two young kids in love. Stepping outside of your routine can bring you and your partner closer, and it’ll ensure that things never get boring between you. SpicyBox’s date night ideas will have you and your partner having fun in no time. Get your first box today!